Dealing With Negative People
07/25/10 03:36 Filed in: Criticism
The appropriate response to any criticism is illustrated by the householder in today’s Gospel. He appreciated the seriousness of the situation but recognized that it did not require immediate intervention. He remained cool and calm as he studied the situation and waited until the time was ripe. Then he acted decisively. When someone criticizes us, it’s important to exercise patient, self-restraint.
At one time or another, we have all encountered mean-spirited people who sow discord wherever they go. When we become the target of one of their attacks, the natural tendency is to immediately rush to defend ourselves by retaliating in like manner. But losing our temper and attacking their character can make us appear just as mean-spirited, negative and spiteful as them. And, once something is posted on the Internet, there is no taking it back. What’s more, a hasty response can trigger a strong reaction, in some cases even violent physical confrontations.
The appropriate response to any criticism is illustrated by the householder in today’s Gospel. He appreciated the seriousness of the situation but recognized that it did not require immediate intervention. He remained cool and calm as he studied the situation and waited until the time was ripe. Then he acted decisively.
When someone criticizes us, it’s important to exercise patient, self-restraint. Try to uncover the motive behind their comments. Are they being negative and confrontational just to draw attention to themselves? Or are they sincere? Is this the first time they have made a comment or are they chronic complainers? Are they the only ones who feel this way or are they part of a clique? Listen attentively to what they have to say and decide whether or not there is any merit in their remarks. If an apology is in order, do so graciously and respectfully. In most cases, a friendly, courteous response will resolve the matter. If there is no merit in what they have to say, remain positive; look for common ground; and encourage your supporters to express their views. Then pray for your critics.
The appropriate response to any criticism is illustrated by the householder in today’s Gospel. He appreciated the seriousness of the situation but recognized that it did not require immediate intervention. He remained cool and calm as he studied the situation and waited until the time was ripe. Then he acted decisively.
When someone criticizes us, it’s important to exercise patient, self-restraint. Try to uncover the motive behind their comments. Are they being negative and confrontational just to draw attention to themselves? Or are they sincere? Is this the first time they have made a comment or are they chronic complainers? Are they the only ones who feel this way or are they part of a clique? Listen attentively to what they have to say and decide whether or not there is any merit in their remarks. If an apology is in order, do so graciously and respectfully. In most cases, a friendly, courteous response will resolve the matter. If there is no merit in what they have to say, remain positive; look for common ground; and encourage your supporters to express their views. Then pray for your critics.
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